Picky Is Good...Right?

Who is the ideal man for me? This was the question I attempted to unravel in class today. Yes, this is what I accomplish when my professor is dragging on about war, war, and more war. Who wants to listen to someone talk about death, devastation, and what the exact definition of a terrorist is on a cloudy Wednesday afternoon? I would much rather think about love. It also didn't hurt that the guy I'm crushing on gave many insightful remarks about post-modern literature. I thought to myself: A guy like him could work. I’m obviously very aware that my ideal man on Wednesday may be totally different from my ideal man on Friday. I’m also aware that the chances of me ending up with this ideal person are slim (I guess), and the person I do finally end up with may be very different. You can save those lectures for another blog. This was just some harmless fun, and it lead to some interesting realizations about the person I’m turning into. Allow me to elaborate…

I'm beginning to realize that I need someone who is both creative and literary. I’m an English major for a reason - literature speaks to me. Perhaps it’s because I am both creative and literary myself, but I need someone who is able to look beneath the surface. I want a man in my life who will get excited about the new art collection being displayed at the MET. I want to read James Joyce, William Faulkner, and Ernest Hemingway together, sharing our favorite passages of books we’ve read time and time again. I want a man who loves to travel. I don’t think I would be able to survive with someone who wanted to live in a small suburban town for the rest of his life, watching football every weekend and never seeing a bigger world. Traveling to Europe, Africa, and Asia are all on my to-do list, and I would love to have my guy hold my hand as we saw the Eiffel Tower and the Great Wall of China together. With that being said, I need someone cultured. New York City is the only place I want to call home for the rest of my life – someone who had a similar wish would be nice. There is seriously nothing you cannot find in that city. I saw a couple getting tickets to a Broadway show when I was in line for my own tickets last Saturday. I thought to myself, I really want a man who will take me to see a play on a Saturday afternoon – that screams romance! He also needs to be updated on current events in our country and around the world. Nothing is more attractive to me than intelligence. I couldn't be with someone who was ignorant of the world around him, or even worse, could care less.

The man who will win his way into my heart will be successful in his own right as well, but I would love for that success to come from something he loves doing. An investment banker is an honorable job, but do many people grow up wishing to become an investment banker? I feel that nice paycheck that comes with it is a big part of the desire to enter that field. How about becoming a full time writer, or a director, or a photographer, or a musician. I know he will be full of passion and determination. I’m also so over the tough guy mentality. Sure, they are sexy, and those tattoos get me every time, but I think I would really love someone who could write me awesome poetry, or write a song just for me and play it on his guitar. Don’t get me wrong; these artsy types have their hang-ups too. A lot of emotional issues are found in creative people. I speak from experience. And perhaps we will both analyze too much to make a relationship work, but I’m definitely willing to give it a try. Perhaps I’m being too picky, but I will inform all of you right now, I will never settle. Happiness is my main goal in life, and when you settle for anything less than what you deserve, happiness is the first thing to go. So to all of you readers out there who have a male friend that fits this description, casually drop my name into conversation. Then we will tell the story of how you began our great love affair. What an honor!

Peace and Love All <3